You’re right on, Emma.
“ if he is attracted to me, why does he keep going on about these thin women he’d rather be fucking?”
Because he’s not worth looking at, much less talking to. I might not know much but I figured that out for myself. I have never dated or even spoken much to a man like that who was worth much in any regard. It isn’t like men like this are good friends otherwise, or are even particularly good at their jobs. Some of them have money but that’s not a recommendation of any type.
I like men who are secure enough to not bring that type of thing up in conversation with others or to have a “type” enough to talk about it that way.
What you say about learning it from dating women makes sense as well. Being honest has its benefits.