Your cousin was extremely rude and brutal to you. I've found these attitudes are a part of self-identity of many men, who seem to take pride in insulting others and demanding that they act and be the way this other person wants. It's wrong. I would hope she could understand, but think that she probably is unable to understand what you've written or who you are because she has been acculturated to this. They call it homophobia from your perspective. These attitudes are expressed to nearly all women, all over the world, for their entire lives, from infancy to death. It makes your cousin in some bizarre way feel "better" about herself, I suppose. I call women who mirror and parrot these cruel, oppressive attitudes "pickmes" because the attitudes simply come from wanting to be accepted and loved by hateful men. It's not just TRUMP, either. He feeds into it and feeds off it but it didn't start w/him and it's not going to end with him, sadly. Maybe those who care for others, together, can end it.