‘White men’ Think Being Called ‘White man’ is ‘Dehumanizing’ Because They Need to Buy a Dose of Humanity
I just had a “men’s rights advocate” call me bigoted because I refused to agree that “women rape men as often as men rape women.”
The “most dehumanizing insult of our times” continues to float around Twitter to delight onlookers.
As a writer and English teacher, I’ll break down the complaint of these gentlemen who assert that being described by their color and gender is “dehumanizing” — i.e. it removes their “humanity.”
I’ll stay in my lane on this one. It may be difficult for some to believe that I don’t feel any more or less “human” when someone describes me as a ‘white woman.’ I take it as a statement of fact.
When I first saw this thing on Twitter my response was “I can think of a few terms a little more ‘dehumanizing’ than that.”
Here some terms that are still frequently used to describe females by alt-Right gentlemen:
Feminazi FUPA (fat upper pubic area) Fat Pig Whale Dog Bitch C**t Whore Slut
That’s just off the top of my head.
Then there’s the incels.
“I’m libertarian generally, but we have to ban fatness.”
Dude, I just went to the mall yesterday (and I don’t live in a ‘fat’ area Incels, I live in South Orange County less than 2 miles from Laguna Beach).
You know who I saw who was carrying a little bit too much weight? Some guys, maybe even potential incels, playing VR games in the Microsoft store. Yeah. Those guys. A 22 YO playing with a VR headset pretending to shoot “arrows” with a fake controller and big ugly black goggles with his stomach threatening to overtake the room. I just felt like maybe this guy sits around insulting others for their weight while he grows ever larger on junk foods and inactivity.
Me? I went to Forever 21 and bought $25 worth of size “M” clothing. I’m a big fat whale you Incel alt-right freak! I’m 56 years old! No man would EVER look twice at me! I’m fat, ugly, worthless, and stupid!!!!
My teeth are crooked because I was poor growing up. Hell I am still poor.
So I thought I was the fattest, ugliest, least desirable and interesting girl on the planet growing up. I thought no boy or man would ever be interested in me and I thought I would never have a date until I started getting asked out.
Things weren’t “better” for women in previous generations. But few women had to hear this type of comment on a daily basis. Now it’s everywhere. My heart aches for my daughter/s (I have one biological and dozens of spirit daughters). My God as if what I had to deal with growing up wasn’t bad enough — this?
It’s taken me pretty much most of a lifetime to see myself as a person. To understand my life, the world, and to become fully-human.
Dear messed-up incel: if you are so degraded that you think you do yourself any favors whatsoever worrying about what total strangers look like — maybe you’d better consider that as the first and foremost reason that you are an incel.
Right now I’d like to say to all the good guys out there in the world (and you’re the vast majority) — this is not about you.
This is about men who are so low, so insecure, so pathetic, and so sad that they do nothing but insult, degrade, and ignore others. Men who are so entitled and self-absorbed that they believe that being called what they are is some kind of “insult.”
This type of man has spent his miserable life doing nothing but treating others as poorly as he, inside, thinks of himself. He has been completely poisoned and overwhelmed by this toxic culture we live in the same as those little kids in Flint, MI have been poisoned by the lead in the water.
He is the same as those who created our culture and who are fighting so hard to keep control of it.
It’s my firm belief that the healthier each and every person gets, the healthier and better our culture and society will be.
How horribly we have poisoned ourselves. To think there are actually men out there who hit, choke and insult their partners in order to “break down strong women” who are the chief “law enforcement” of their state like New York’s former Attorney General Eric Schneiderman.
I don’t think there’s one woman out there who could not say she has been personally insulted and denigrated by a man who called her fat, ugly, worthless, or dumb.
But the thing is, as I told a gentleman once, we may not have much as women. We may not be able to pursue the jobs we thought we could because we were told “you can do anything!” (uh-right-like Meghan Markle is a symbol of ‘hope’ for women of color) and we may have had to give up a lot in order to care for our families. That’s okay because we do it because we want to. We do it because we do care about others.
One time I told this persistent gentleman, “It’s always the woman’s choice.” We women always have the choice to say “yes” or “no” to a man. There is nothing he can do about it. He may force our bodies but can never force our hearts.
The day we can truly say we love our selves as much as we love others is the day we will be free. Not more. Not less. The exact same.
So, incels and insulted ‘white men’ who feel so dehumanized? You did it to yourselves.
We do get out of life what we put into it. It’s about time that some people learn that lesson and we make it stick.