What did she do to anger him? (Lisa). [i don’t mean that but I can hear people saying it]
We were shocked in class the other day while watching the documentary Return to the Wild (PBS 2014). It’s about Christopher McCandless’ surviving siblings, both his full sister Carine and his half-sisters and brothers. Chris cut off all contact with his parents because he’d tried everything to shock them out of their cycle of DV and dysfunction. It was a major reason for his journey and not featured in Krakauer’s book (at Carine’s request) and only somewhat featured in Sean Penn’s movie.
In this film, the parents were still in complete denial and insisting there was nothing wrong, there was no violence, nothing. I think all students were shocked, especially since it made it clear none of the surviving siblings had any contact with their in-denial violent father, and numerous came up to me after or wrote notes as to how sad and bad it was.
It seems to me that, even though it hardly feels like it, there is a change. It’s not normal any longer. Nobody thinks, even though they might feel inclined or have anger they cannot control, that this violence is a good thing. At least not in public.
I could tell stories … you know sometimes the beaters want to be harmed in return! It is tempting but so, so wrong.