We're on the same page, John. But I'm just now starting to deal with this shadow self. I know I've got a mean side, an unforgiving side, and a ultra-competitive side. That integration part? Tough. How awesome is it you are giving this straightforward and true sex advice for guys! Spot on, my friend, spot on. I'm a physical empath so I didn't need extra advice along those lines in so many words but over time came to realize that offering real physical pleasure was a pretty decent benefit ...