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Stand By Your Man And Me

And Tammy and Hillary …

Amy Sterling Casil
5 min readMar 27, 2022


When Bruce and I started doing country songs, I was hesitant to try “Stand By Your Man” by Tammy Wynette. Tammy Wynette and Loretta Lynn were part of my growing up. These beautiful women were intimidating in their talent and perfection. At the time, I thought Tammy’s famous song “Stand By Your Man” was an encouragement for a good princess to support her handsome prince.

I had no idea what the part about “sometimes it’s hard to be a woman” meant, nor did I comprehend what Tammy was saying when she sang, “He’ll do things you just won’t understand.”

I wasn’t quite as out of it as most of us are with “Blinded by the light, wrapped up like a douche another roller in the night,” but I still didn’t understand the meaning of “Stand By Your Man.”

My idea of marriage was the handsome prince kissed the princess and they lived happily ever after.

I was pregnant with my daughter when Hillary Clinton gave her first 60 Minutes interview on January 26, 1992.

Screen capture from Clintons 1992 60 Minutes interview on CBS

The main topic of the interview was allegations that Bill Clinton — a man I was seeing and hearing about for the first time — had been unfaithful to his wife, Hillary Clinton, a woman I was also seeing for the first time.

The result of my watching this interview was that I … wait for it …

Believed Hillary.

Then Hillary made her famous comments: “You know I’m not sittin’ here as some little woman, standing by my man like Tammy Wynette. I’m sittin’ here because I love him, and I respect him, and I honor what he’s been through and what we’ve been through together.”

I appreciated what she said about herself. Yet even at that time, I wondered why she seemed to be putting Tammy Wynette down.

“Tammy is the best,” I thought. “She has been through H-E double-L and then some with George Jones …”

Flash forward 30 years later and …

Hillary Clinton, with the countless hours she’s been on television, having been Secretary of State, U.S. Senator…



Amy Sterling Casil

Over 500 million views and 5 million published words, top writer in health and social media. Author of 50 books, former exec, Nebula nominee.