"Projection" is a tactic of Josef Goebbels, Machiavelli, and every other abusive criminal then, now, and today. You're the one who said I said "all older white men" when it's in the headline - "some."

It's stunning the contortions that obsession forces people into. The man I mentioned has been ostracized by our entire friend group of dozens of couples. Now his poor wife can't even socialize because he is so out-there.