Oh man, what a jerk! I think you did the best you could, Deb - and reaching out afterward was for sure the right thing to do. I would not want to go to any future events with this dude. But Bruce and I seem more passive-aggressive than you - I was really glad to read that Evan stood up to him and let him have it at the party. And guess what, whomever Auntie Kimble is? She started it - her "joke" wasn't funny or called for. There's my nonexistent advice, this was one of those stupid human incidents - and as recently as even 5 years ago, this drunk jerk might not have gotten called out at all, so actually, that seems like a bright side to a happy evening spoiled by a drunken, rude fool who apparently does not value his friends.