Maybe you should look at my profile. You might see something different. I'd like to add that I included the AA information for a reason. These thought patterns are addictive and destructive. They've destroyed many, many families. According to the NIH, people report incidence of abuse as children of 10% to 31% in men and 6% to 40% in women. Though MRAs frequently say women abuse more often than men, it's just another form of abuse. Both my husbands were abused. Almost every boyfriend I ever had was abused. Their abusers were fathers and/or stepfathers. I've been abused. I've been raped. I haven't abused, nor have I harmed anyone else. We've all done our best to treat our children well and they are pretty much happy and WE BROKE THE CYCLE OF ABUSE. That's our life achievement. Millions of others have, too. This generation. This is what we have done.