It's hard work and ongoing work, with each person paying attention to their own genuine health and wellbeing - only by being healthy together can a relationship also be healthy. It's hard to say what one needs to say in a kind and empathetic way ... hard work! You're so right this type of couple is still fairly unusual. But I think it will be more common in the future. Today I think I might write about sugar ... how it affects people's attitudes and interests and abilities.