I understand my article has a deliberately provocative title - but I really was not saying "all unattractive men are abusers" - I was saying that I had responded to social conditioning to give this man multiple chances, feel empathy to him, and assist him, and it was unwarranted. If you look through everything I write (doubtful dear red piller) you will see that is the theme. Commonly-accepted or culturally-promoted behavior has a bad real-world result. For me, as I stated in the intro and conclusion, had I (personally) stuck to men of an equivalent attractiveness level to me, I would not have endured the abuse my former partner, a well-known bestselling novelist and editor, put me through. I do understand this is a controversial thing to say but in our society, it's rarely, if ever, seen that a handsome, fit man is with a female of the equivalent look and fitness level of Alan Rodgers. If so, and the man also endures abuse from that partner? Again, just so rare as to be non-existent. Yet we see beautiful, feminine women with men who are hideous inside and out all the time. That's what I wrote about.