I think the title is a lot like my title of "No Man Would Ever Be Interested in a Woman Over Age 25" and it's unusual you would be "upset" because it's pointing out a truth. I wouldn't go into any person's home or community and "assume" I knew better than them, nor would I think I knew how to cook any traditional foods with just a few moments of observation. The author is making the analogy to a more general lack of respect and equitable treatment for herself and her family and their community. Looks like you still don't really understand.