Harlan was a really kind and caring person and, if you were his friend/he yours, he would “give the shirt off his back,” he was SO generous. The WorldCon awards incident with Connie Willis (whom I also know — though not as well as Harlan) was awful. I slept through the event so I cannot say what really happened, but I know him, and I know he would never grab any woman’s breast without permission, much less in public. He was joking and it seemed to have been an awkward joke — I defended him at the time and would/will continue to do so. Connie’s silence marred my opinion of her. And I have been at events where I was the only person she’d speak to. Frankly, like many individuals in her circumstance/circles — she’s pretty self absorbed. Harlan was never that. He was a prickly individual but if you knew the world’s score, he had to be. He made a success of himself, he was very well regarded in Hollywood despite his rep …

Harlan insisted I go to the rape crisis center as soon as I got home from Michigan. He was the first person outside of school officials, authorities, and my family that I had ever told about my rape.

I always had a “life” outside of writing. I do things for a living that most sci fi writers could only imagine, and I am one of the only females in several different career paths I’ve taken. I mention elsewhere that I am a member of the Sigma Forum. In this group are the former head of Los Alamos National Laboratory and Space Command (now Space Force). When looking at today’s moronic (I don’t use that word accidentally) non-troversies in the field, it should say what worth the writings of individuals who’d spend their time on that would be.

I think people who’ve worked for Space Command would know better — as did Harlan, who marched with the Civil Rights/Voting Rights workers in Mississippi and who marched for the Equal Rights Amendment for women — and it still hasn’t passed.

This guy you looked up? I know him — he was a physics prof at UC Irvine for decades. Easy job. Easy life. Poor character.